Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. – 1 Chronicles 16:34
Each year I like to celebrate Thanksgiving by reviewing my blessings.
No two ways about it – this has been a tough year. It started with a cancer diagnosis for Pete and a heart attack for me, followed by a string of hospitalizations and an exhausting trek through a convoluted health care system. And I’ve said this before: I’m not sure we’re expected to be grateful for affliction – after all, I’m not a masochist.
But I certainly am grateful for the people God has put in our lives to help us through the scary stuff. Family, friends, our spiritual community, dedicated health care professionals and even total strangers have come through for us in a very big way.
So here’s my gratitude list for the bright spots in 2023:
My amazing husband. This man has topped my gratitude list every single day since I first met him. But this year, Pete’s extraordinary strength and courage continually inspired me as he plowed through chemotherapy, then major surgery, then several hospitalizations due to infections and other complications, and finally, immunotherapy treatments. On top of all this, he’s been my faithful “therapy skunk” as I’ve navigated my own medical journey. To say that I love him to the ends of the universe and back would be a huge understatement. He’s my personal hero, and I am grateful for each and every day I get to have with him.
Our family and friends. We are both beyond grateful for the mountain of get-well wishes and prayers, the delicious meals sent to our house when we didn’t feel like cooking, the offers to assist with transportation and other needs, the cat photos and baby goat videos and bad puns posted to our Facebook pages to cheer us up, and the many other things our wonderful family members and friends have done to help us feel supported and loved as we’ve moved through our recent crises. The steady stream of prayers, cards and visits helped more than people know!
Our little cat. My life has been graced with some fine cats, dating back to earliest childhood: Mewlinda and Bianca, Torbjorn and Angie, Oley and The Champ. They have been cuddly, entertaining, delightfully ornery and endlessly adorable. These sweet fur babies have curled up next to me while I slept, sat in my lap while I worked at my desk, soothed me when I was distressed, and loved me unconditionally. This past year, I’ve taken to calling Champie our furry little comforter. He kept my husband company and rubbed noses with him as Pete was recuperating from his surgery and hospital stays. He cuddled up with me on those lonely nights when Pete was in the hospital and I had to sleep alone at home. Even at the ripe old age of 17, he continues to be his sweet, ornery, adorable little self.
Our spiritual community. We belong to a congregation where people actually try to live out the values they profess. The folks who participate in our church’s Sundays@6 adult faith formation group have engaged in some great discussions. The Dominican Sisters in our community have enveloped us in prayer and provided us with spiritual direction, while our fellow participants in the anti-racism task force have taught us much. My fellow bloggers have shared their faith stories and offered prayers.
Our home. Our beautiful dream house has a cozy fireplace I can sit next to during my morning or evening meditation sessions, a sunroom, an eat-in kitchen, a piano, office space for each of us and plentiful storage and closet space. Our yard overflows with flower beds. We live in a lovely neighborhood with a bike path leading to a nearby park and botanical garden. Our sunroom and backyard deck have helped us entertain numerous visitors this year.
Delivery services and essential workers. Being able to order food and groceries and have them delivered to our front door was a Godsend during those weeks when we had health care appointments every day of the week, when we were too exhausted to cook or go grocery shopping and Pete was too immunocompromised for us to even think about eating out at restaurants. Our fabulous cleaning ladies and the lawn care people have kept me from being completely overwhelmed as we juggle medical appointments, infusions, cardiac rehab therapy and other commitments. When our house is clean and our yardwork under control, my life itself begins to feel like it’s under better control.
Our medical team. As exasperating as our health care system can be to navigate, we’ve been blessed with competent and dedicated health care professionals, from Pete’s oncologist and my heart specialists to the overnight nursing staff who helped keep Pete and me comfortable during hospital stays. And we mustn’t forget to mention the amazing staff at the Simmons Cancer Institute’s infusion center, the folks at the cardiac rehab center, and the home health team who came to our house throughout the late winter, spring and early summer.
Technology. Despite all the hype about the societal dangers of social media and other technological advances, tech has been a lifeline to Pete and me. We’re able to “attend” Sunday services and church committee meetings even when hospitalized or homebound. We’ve been able to visit family members and friends, and have sessions with our spiritual directors online. We’ve even been able to have Zoom appointments with doctors and other health care professionals, saving us countless commutes and hours spent in waiting rooms.
Relative financial security. Having supplemental health insurance along with our Medicare means we don’t have to worry about how to cover all those medical bills – which would probably surpass the price of a nice-sized house this year – because our out-of-pocket expenses have been minimal. Being able to afford someone to clean our house and mow our grass has also made my life exponentially easier, especially with my time taken up by so many medical details.
The great outdoors. No matter which season we’re in, I love the wildlife that populates our backyard – the rabbits and squirrels, birds and butterflies and bees. Whether I’m feeding the critters, admiring our flowers, snapping photos of flora and fauna at the park or strolling through our neighborhood, experiencing God’s creation with all my senses ranks as one of my favorite activities. As I’ve said numerous times, I find it almost impossible to deny God’s existence when I’m outdoors with the evidence all around me.
Ordinary days. If this year has taught me nothing else, it’s taught me to appreciate the “boring” days I used to take for granted. Sometimes there’s nothing more wonderful than an uneventful day. No distressing symptoms. No rides to the emergency room in the back of an ambulance. No test results with nasty surprises. Just laundry, vacuuming, groceries and other soothingly routine activities. I never thought I’d learn to appreciate plain, ordinary days so much. When God treats me to one of these days lately, Psalm 118:24 comes to mind: This is the day which the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.
Being alive. God has granted Pete and me another year, as wild as it’s been. While many folks complain about aging (and I must admit I do this myself from time to time), today I choose to be grateful I’ve been allowed to grow old. Especially after surviving a heart attack.
For all of this, God, I thank you.
Here’s hoping everyone has a safe and happy Thanksgiving!
Blessings,